Entomology researchers that work with disparlure, the pheromone for gypsy moths, can continue to attract gypsy moth males for many years after they stopped working with disparlure even perhaps their entire lives. I would imagine it must smell much different to those that like patchouli because I would never call the scent I smell pleasant. But I was young and naive and I said all I had done was use soap (which was standard issue and unscented) before I left the restroom. I think that it might be another coworker or it could be the scent from a product used to clean the office. I am the same issue. Never disregard the medical advice of your physician or health professional, or delay in seeking such advice, because of something you read on this Site. OP has tried really hard to accommodate this coworkers reasonable original request, and it hasnt worked. The last time she used baby powder on a babys bum was approximately 31 years ago. But unless were also banning Axe body spray or Febreze from the public sphere (if only), people get to wear whatever scent they like in public even if it annoys some other people. I can tell you, its really hard for me not to come across as rude. I would only put it on the wearer if they were not respecting my desire not to be around it. Personally, I don't mind the sound of someone blowing their nose. My mom had the same experience with TCBY yogurt. The ones made with essential oils seem OK, its the more chemical created scents. If it is just a personal preference to what she is smelling you do not need to be so accommodating. My husband had to calm me down. it gives meme headaches and I carnt enjoy myself. For real I understand if people *like* the smell of Febreeze, but seriously, its not some magical odor-disapperating powder, so dont act like its automatically preferable to any other strong scent. I used to prefer white wine to red. But Id be pretty cranky if someone at work told me I had to stop using some hygiene product unless it was REALLY egregiously strong-smelling (looking at you, beloved Soap and Glory lotion that I wont wear in public). Once that boundary is understood, you can use that to have a productive discussion with the coworker. 1. Ten points to Gryffindor! (And even if she werent, the co-worker is clearly going about this the wrong way!). But seriously? I literally had to blow my nose all through my second pregnancy. Both conditions could be well managed with conservative therapies, such as nasal steroids, antihistamines, or decongestants. It turns out I suffer from ocd i am on medication for it. I completely agree. It seems like some people in an office environment get a pet Thing To Complain About and lose track of either the importance or the existence of the Thing, sometimes both. Theyre going through chemo, they may as well have a pleasant food. I have a number of co-irkers that I want to tell Nice perfume/cologne must you bathe in it? but I dont, because its merely obnoxious, and Im not a jerk. I developed a sniff several years ago. If not, there you are. You can couch it as youd think itd be a good idea of someone checked up on him (and gently let him know that the noise is carrying). This. I agree that theres a practical limit to how much you can accommodate allergies and sensitivities. I add vinegar to thrift store clothes to get ride of the scented detergents most of them wash things in. The office is not fragrance free O had air quality come in. Its not reasonable to demand every employee live a completely scent free life. thanks! I dont think LW should have to go above and beyond and Feebreeze her office and dryclean her clothes and not take bubble baths on her *own time* and and and and. My MIL uses a very nicely scented oil diffuser in her house (several, actually, its a big place) and whenever my husband visits I can always smell it on him and all his clothes, even after a plane flight. Sometimes though, the cat wee smell will catch up to me and Ill get home from work and WHOA. She may have to wear one of those paper face masks. At this point, Im starting to feel like youre just looking for an excuse to complain about me. They lead the meeting after the meeting. For a while I just wore grapefruit scented essential oil on my wrists and neck instead of perfume, but it would fade away so fast I eventually just stopped. (I mean, other than the usual feedback from my manager.) Issues between coworkers can go from bad to worse and even become toxic! I explained his cologne was overpowering and offered him the elevator while I would take the stairs. Most people have told me that they cant smell my scents at all, unless theyre like actively sticking their nose in the crook of my elbow or something. That just made my phantom smell issues like 10x worse because I was right one time.). 5 again? Thats really interesting. 15) She makes you feel special. Thats so interesting! I was thinking that too. I mean I get the idea but thats a heck of a food to ruin. They just arent my preference, but barring a health related consequence of great severity, I would never dream of asking anyone to change their scent of choice. Thats my thought. But not all allergies are as obvious as hay fever. Blowing is fine--sniffling is a killer. Oh man every time I see someone on here who has sniffling as a trigger I feel a little guilty. The friction of interacting with an annoying co-worker actually presents a chance to cultivate essential leadership skills like assertiveness, self-awareness and confidence. I much prefer it to sniffling. I know were not supposed to criticize OPs, but come on. assigning women extra work to help them, calling out when youre in the ER, and more. It would suck for OP if it is her entire wardrobe and she just cant smell it. Usually trying to clear the flood and congestion by blowing my nose is like trying to slam a logjam through the eye of a needle. Scent memory is powerful. I dont know if its the food they eat (not curry or garlic) or what, but they smell like Home Country when they visit America. I was thinking something similar it could be an issue developing with the coworker that they dont even realize is happening yet. Regardless, the AGAIN? I was definitely guilty off that when Obsession first came out: people used to complain to me and Id just laugh because they just didnt know a good smell when they encountered one. Unrelated to any sort of sickness, but I loathe the taste of chicken and always have. My mother loves her strong old lady perfume. You have a right to wash yourself in lightly (or heavily for that matter) scented things. I doits with very specific chewing noises (luckily not allI know some people with this who cant go anywhere people are eating). Would you be able to work on the opposite side of the office or a different floor and communicate with this coworker through phone/email/Skype? Someone in my major (I wasnt in that class) actually got up and punched someone recovering from a particularly long coldI spent the last two years of college avoiding classes with him, especially when he punched some other person for another sound-related reason! Our nine-year-old son has trouble remembering to chew with his mouth closed. Its not a neutral and pleasant sort of floral whatever. I also have sniffles all the time. I have 3 co-workers now who smoke, but hate how they smell after they smoke, so they take perfume showers in their cubes 3x/day. I hesitated, but in the end, I just couldnt ride in such a small box with him smelling like that. Does anyone have answer. Ugh, bathroom sprays. If co-worker seeks you out to complain about the smell, then shes just being a snot, and trying to stir up trouble. Preempt HR. Surely people grow out of this shortly after high school, surely a grown adult wouldnt comment on someones smell unless it was bothering them. And that's because your coworker might not even know that she likes you yet. But even if this is the case, the co-worker is not handling it in an appropriate way, and OP shouldnt have to put up with Mean Girls style bullying about it. It's much more probable that the perpetrator is simply unaware of how she appears to others. I dont like using them, because they seem very anti-social, but I will in places I cant get out of and have no chance of controlling like an airplane or in a taxi. I have sensitive skin, easily-bothered hair, and lots of allergies, so finding products that work for me to begin with is difficult, time-consuming, and expensive. Requesting a coworker to not wear perfume or oils to work is reasonable. OMG! How is 24/7 sniffling allowed in an office space without repercussions? I have to add that this isnt to imply that OP has an odd personal smell at all! Its possible the smell is lingering somewhere else or has another cause (from your handbag, or its actually the smell of your car air freshener, or something other than the original perfume). Now, I know that others who are sensitive cannot deal with it because of worse effects, but that doesnt look like what is happening here. I though he had peed on everything. I inhale the mindblowing smells and sandals I also lick, but only the inner soles where the pretty feet have met the . Yup. She needs to figure out a way to disperse the smell at work (with a fan? Yeah, thats my take. All day every day. Im not sure the OP really can win with this co-worker. Continuous sinus nose pressure after 2nd child? Like wearing perfume on days off that lingers even after bathing before coming back to work, or burning incense in ones own home, or storing clothes laundered in scent-free products in the same dresser or closet with clothes that havent been laundered that way, or having an air freshener in ones own car. We do not endorse non-Cleveland Clinic products or services. Honestly, if my workplace required that I stop using scents on my body, I would have a big problem with it. Sure, it could be that theres a specific scent here (like patchouli) that others in the office dont have, but it does seem a little unusual that the OP is the only one getting complaints. They should only be sniffing when you give them their release word (like "Break" or "Ok"). Dont wear it to work is really reasonable, but asking someone to never use it is not like you said, there are other scents that are also hated by some. Seconding the thanks! ), just so she can say shes done everything she can. Cant they pick a food thats less nice? About a month ago, one of my coworkers told me that the perfume I was wearing bothered her. I supervise a manager who falsified an employee write-up but I dont think she should be fired, getting out of shared intern housing, why are so many executives condescending, and more, interviewer fake-rejected me to see if I would fight for the job. The runny nose, persistent stuffiness, and postnasal drip of the sniffles are often self-diagnosed as a cold. I worked with someone at OldJob who LOVED Avon products, nearly all of which set off symptoms. Some apple scent, maybe. They offered her a new seat not situated in the middle of the office. nothing seems to help, except taking a 1/2 of a 5 mg flexeral at bedtime,It calms the constant sniffiling and I can sleep. I agree with you that the OP has already done a lot and the coworker is being snarky. Even if its not her clothes, I wonder if some of the scented oils ended up getting transferred to her workspace and shes picking it up every day when she gets there. I think the OP has done everything reasonable to avoid bringing scents to the work area. What else can be done? He says patchouli makes him sick and we were staying at a house that used patchouli Landry detergent. It can be super effective for getting odors out, although certain perfumes and oil-based scents get so embedded in clothes that they may not come out at all :(. I think Ive only asked someone once to stop wearing her perfume (I only worked in that office a few days a month so I figured she could maybe just not wear it those days, and she generally didnt after that which I really appreciated.) LW treat this as a bullying issue, not a health issue, and proceed accordingly. If you yell at them to run, theyll tell you youre crazy, rude, whatever. They Don't Like You But it sounds like a cant win for losing situation :(. Patchouli has actually been a key scent note for Dior for decades :-). I feel like Id want to get to the root of the problem. They dont have added scent, but a lot of chemicals smell. Problem is, no one around you sees the flames or senses the heat, so they have no sense of urgency to bolt for the doors. Cant remember what it was, maybe its something I still wear and have just gotten used to it. Reactions like these to normal everyday stimuli, and those of Firebolt below, are extreme. Now I'm drug and sniffle free. My one and only true hangover. Everything could be hated by someone, and yeah, so long as Axe is still allowed, Yep, Im not going to stop using incense and oils at home out of the worry that it might travel with me to work on my clothes, or spend inordinate amounts of time washing my clothes to make sure theyre pristine so I dont smell like patchouli. very invasive advice). I think this can have a lot to do with body chemistry, too I have one essential oil blend made for me that has a lot of layers, but the one that lasts the longest is kind of a candle-smoke scent. I'm 29, she's in her thirties. And if this is how OP functions, what about the other coworkers? Makes me smell like an old shoe. Sigh. Maybe a (different) co-worker, in case the smell is lingering around the OPs work station as mentioned below. My conditions have all been verified by multiple doctors and specialists.). About 75% of Smelly Things gives me a headache, so I have a slight aversion as well. My mom swears up and down that baby powder smells like dirty diapers because she so strongly associates the two. Im very self-aware of scents I give off though, so its easy for me to find a substitute. ;). Im just glad this is a common enough problem that most hotels use unscented products to wash their linens or Id have to travel with a sleeping bag. It's a little passive aggressive but can't hurt. She used to cry to me about how she is single and she even said to me once what is wrong with me? Enlarged turbinates, structures in the nose that clean and humidify the air you breathe handy when theyre working well, not so much when they take up too much nasal real estate. Heres an article he wrote for CNN that was reposted on a blog (couldnt find the original): http://www.emilysstomach.com/2013/06/aversions-to-food-and-why-smells-make.html. And honey. If someone was spraying any form of Febreeze, *I* would go to the Manager. they may be still carrying your scented oil. We got fried chicken and rode the train home together . When she complained, I told her she could either get a doctors note and take it HR, she could quit, or she could go pound sand. I dont have a huge wardrobe, so most if not all of my office-appropriate clothes have been washed since then, so Im pretty sure that there are no lingering traces hanging on. But do what Alison suggests. My coworker sniffles ALL DAY LONG. Then again, here the people rocking the strong scents tend to be older and more senior in the organization. Or she may simply be nuts. I mean, what more should the OP be asked to do? OP should do what she can to avoid being overly fragrant at work, but she doesnt need to cut anything and everything that smells from her life. Oops. They have Skype, and even video enabled robots that can go around for you. She couldnt stand cinnamon-scented anything for almost a decade. I ate a piece of pecan pie on a trip to Australia when I was 19 and then got food poisoning and was sick for days. LW has gone above and beyond to accommodate this. Its possible something else has changed with the co-worker and thats why the scent all of a sudden became a problem in the last month. I may be slightly fixated on that part because I have an unheated detached garage and it snowed last night. Maybe your coworker is just rude, but if blowing my nose would fix the problem, I would do it. There shouldnt be any fragrances lingering around. My coworker is constantly coughing and blowing her nose My coworker who I share an office with has been sick for the past month and a half. if you have to entirely eradicate any scent you may have and completely alter your lifestyle in your own home and on your own time to accommodate someone else thats pretty unreasonable. ;). I work in a normal law firm type atmosphere and several employees are rocking strong cologne and perfume that does indeed linger in the air or on my clothes/hair. As someone who is very sensitive to scents, I just wanted to say to the LW how NICE it is that you put in so much effort to be un-scented! OP How long have you and this co-worker worked together? I honestly tried to accommodate my coworker but there was nothing more I could do. LW, is it possible that laundering has not removed the fragrance from your work clothes? It doesnt smell anything like pee, but reminds me of the smell all the same. Something like jeopardy would trigger a kind of nervousness. Starting a couple of years in, they brought in unscented liquid soap for the public bathrooms, because theres not much point asking everyone to use unscented products at home/in their hotel rooms if possible, and then have everyone use orange-scented hand soap all day. Its really difficult to calmly sit with the person attached to that trigger and explain whats happening. Seriously, have you ever had to restock all of your cleaning crap lately? They have to go out in public and buy groceries, get gas, go to the doctor, and basically interact with a whole plethora of other humans and nonhumans who all emit various smells. It is just normal unscented Sure/Tide/Bounce, though, not natural versions of these like youd find in places like Whole Foods. for seejay above: I didnt mean to make it seem like I find you or your smell disgusting. Im a grown-up, so I wouldnt do that, but oh, Lord, would I want to. LPR causes post-nasal drip, a lump in the throat feeling, and can cause . Focus on her behavior rather than any more placating action on your part. Im super-sensitive to the smell of tobacco smoke, but this does go to show you that it can linger in unexpected places. Get private office or moved away from said problem because I'm a good employee they don't want to lose because I can't concentrate or keep my sanity at work. Do you have a sweater or jacket that you wear on a regular basis that you keep in your office? Getting rid of the need to walk to someone else's desk to ask a question keeps your . I think shes using bother in the I dont like it sense. I stopped wearing it to work when you asked me to. or just Nope, not me. and then either ignore the co-worker or go on talking about the TPS reports or whatever. Thats worth adjusting a hair /skin/laundry care routine for so someone doesnt accidentally kill them or put them in the hospital. The following Monday, though, I noticed the scent was strong again, so commented to her about it. Even if she still can smell something on you that youre not noticing, shes not bringing it up in a productive way at all exaggerated sniffing and snarky comments are not helping anything! Consider having a friend/family member (who doesnt live with you!) It kind of reminds me of when I got food poisoning after drinking hot chocolate, and even though I dont think it was the cocoa that did it (rather, I think it was lunch earlier that day), for MONTHS I couldnt even look at much less smell cocoa without feeling sick. If not I would actually quit over this. It became a campus-wide thing. Hmm, I had no idea. I wonder if he has a front loader washing machine that is moldy and stinking up his clothes or he lets them sit for awhile before drying. I finally had to write up one worker who insisted on spraying perfume in the office. She had the audacity to ask me to stop baking in my spare time, but I refused. about. Unless you saw an allergist or ENT doctor, you might never know you have it., With such a long list of possible causes, how do you get to the bottom of your runny-nose problems? Many problems can lie behind that runny nose. Finding affordable products that actually work for my skin and hair is extremely extremely difficult. I smell :(. They made a make shift area in a corner wth an old desk and asked me if I I eventually left for another job and Im told she left right after. How best to handle a situation like this? My hair styling product sort of smells like pineapple, and Ive noticed that once it dries you cant smell it but if I get rained on suddenly, pineapple. And laundry care routines arent always simple either my mom has allergic reactions to many common brands of detergent, so finding a new unscented brand that doesnt make her break out in hives would be, again, a trial and error process that could get expensive fast. Its a pain to find fragrance free shampoo and conditioner, but Jason Naturals makes an ok version. Eat something and get sick and your body remembers at a very basic level. But again, this might be me being snarky. Someone I was around complained about my patchouli smell. 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